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Attachment in children

Biological instinct

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Attachment theory has led to a new understanding of child development. Children develop different patterns of attachment based on experiences and interactions with their caregivers at a young age. Four different attachment classifications have been identified in children: secure attachment, anxious-ambivalent attachment, anxious-avoidant attachment, and disorganized attachment. Attachment theory has become the dominant theory used today in the study of infant and toddler behavior and in the fields of infant mental health, treatment of children, and related fields.

Attachment theory and children

Attachment theory (developed by the psychoanalyst Bowlby 1969, 1973, 1980) is rooted in post-World War Two notions of the traditional female-male division of labour in Westernized nuclear families and the ethological notion that a newborn child is biologically programmed to seek proximity with caregivers, and this proximity-seeking behavior evolved in the Stone Age. Through repeated attempts to seek physical and emotional closeness with a caregiver and the responses the child gets, the child is hypothesised to develop an internal working model (IWM) that reflects the response of the caregiver to the child. According to Bowlby, attachment provides a secure base from which the child can explore the environment, a haven of safety to which the child can return when he or she is afraid or fearful. Bowlby's colleague Mary Ainsworth identified that an important factor which determines whether a child will have a secure or insecure attachment is the degree of sensitivity shown by their caregiver:

The theory interprets a sensitive caregiver as someone who responds socially to attempts to initiate social interaction, playfully to his or her attempts to initiate play. The caregiver picks the child up when s/he seems to wish it, and puts them down when s/he wants to explore. When s/he is distressed, the sensitive caregiver knows what kinds and degree of soothing the child requires to be comforted – and knows that sometimes a few words or a distraction will be all that is needed. On the other hand, the caregiver who responds 'insensitively' tries to socialize with the baby when s/he is hungry, play with her or him when tired, or offer food when s/he is trying to initiate social interaction.

However, it should be recognized that "even sensitive caregivers get it right only about 50 percent of the time. Their communications are either out of synch, or mismatched. There are times when parents feel tired or distracted. The telephone rings or there is breakfast to prepare. In other words, attuned interactions rupture quite frequently. But the hallmark of a sensitive caregiver is that the ruptures are managed and repaired."

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